Have you seen pictures of older couples hand in hand and looking as happy as can be? I think we all admire that image and want to have that type of relationship in our future. And it is indeed possible. Here are some tips for a long lasting relationship.
Walk hand in hand. Instead of one partner lagging or dragging behind the other, happy couples walk comfortably hand in hand or side by side. They know it’s more important to be with their partner and see the sights together along the way.
Emphasize the Positive Sometimes it is hard to be nice but it pays off. Happy couples make at least five times as many positive statements to and about each other as negative ones, even when they are arguing. This helps solidify the bond between you.
Trust and Forgive First. When there is a disagreement or argument, and if they can’t resolve it, happy couples default to trusting and forgiving rather than doubting and resenting.
Let Love Build According to studies, couples who start out thinking the fireworks of new romance will last forever lose 50% of their passion after just 18 months. But couples who grow happier over time are the ones who understand that love evolves, becoming calmer, deeper, richer, and more powerful.
Do a check during the day. Calling your partner at home or at work to see how his or her day is going is a great way to maintain connection. It also helps adjust expectations so that you’re more in sync when you connect face to face. For instance, if your partner is having an awful day, it might be unreasonable to expect him or her to be enthusiastic about something good that happened to you.
Hug each other as soon as you see each other ALL THE TIME. We all have a memory of “good touch” (loved), “bad touch” (abused) and “no touch” (neglected). Couples who engage with a hug keep their skin submerged in the “good touch,” which can protect your spirit against anonymity in the world.
Treat Yourself Well Happy couples always consisted of two emotionally healthy and independently happy individuals. These people practiced self-love. They treat themselves with the same type of care that they treated their partner, or at least they try to. Emotionally healthy people know how to forgive, they are able to acknowledge their part in any disagreement or conflict and take responsibility for it. They are self-aware enough to be assertive, to pull their weight, and to give love when it’s most difficult.
Seek to Understand If you’re having a hard time playing on the same team, stop fighting and instead try to understand why your partner is upset. People are inherently bad at being vulnerable, especially in threatening situations. Be willing to ask sincere questions. Let the answers sink in.
Hang In There Up to 80% of those who are most committed to marriage contemplate divorce at some point, But slogging through bad times can make both of you happier than ever. And If you can do that and get to the other side, it makes the relationship stronger. It strengthens love.
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